Marriage thoughts

When I was a teenager my future plans included getting married and becoming a mom someday. Honestly outside of that, I was pretty flaky on what I actually wanted. What I didn’t know then was how hard it can be to get married and have children. The getting married part came pretty easily which I’m extremely grateful for but those darn kiddos have been the hardest blessings to come to realize in my life. I’m beyond grateful for my two little munchkins that call me mom. Huge, huge blessing.

I know not everyone in this life gets to enjoy the blessing of being married, or they do but it doesn’t feel like a blessing. I know there are so many situations in this world that are not happy in marriage. I’m not blind to it. One coworker I worked with in the past was dead set on her belief that pretty much  EVERY couple would end up divorced. No joke. She would always tell me that. She had been cheated on in a past relationship and from there on believed that every relationship looked like that.  She would always tell me what an amazing guy Matt was and how incredible we were together and would tell me all the time to try to stay together.  No worries, so far so good. :)

I think I’ve taken my marriage relationship for granted sometimes. I got married pretty young and really did not realize how amazingly blessed I was in marriage. It’s been 13 years and the more years that pass the better our relationship gets and the more I realize that I have something truly special to value.

Matt is a pretty amazing guy and because I feel like it, I want to brag on him. He is an incredibly calm person which I absolutely love because he balances my not always calm personality. He is a good voice of reason for me and helps me see things in a different light. He may be calm but he is incredibly funny. Okay, I personally think he’s hilarious and he totally entertains me all the time. He lightens the mood and keeps life really good.

He is the most creative person I know. His mind is constantly coming up with new ways to do things. He’s an inventor at heart, he just needs to find some time in our busy lives to make his creative thoughts a reality. He is an optimistic person. Over the years we have gone through some crazy hard stuff. Somehow he is able to see the positive and hope for the best when I’m in the corner crying with some chocolate because I’m sick of facing hard things. I love how he sees life.

Our marriage is not perfect and that is okay. We love each other a lot and that has gotten us through so many things. We’ve had to learn how to be better with our communication. My only piece of marriage advice I can ever give is to learn how to communicate well. No matter how good or bad you are at it you can always be better and who better to work on good communication with than the person you have chosen to live your life with.  

The best part of our marriage is our connection to God. We both firmly have a belief in God and that alone has brought us closer to each other and has only blessed our marriage even more. I’m so grateful for this man for loving God and living his best life to be closer to Him.

I believe that every couple needs something that they believe in together. Maybe that’s God or maybe it’s the values they share.  Connecting with Matt on something we share a belief in has strengthened us substantially. It’s good to share a belief in something.

We’ve gone through a lot of adventures together. We’re in the middle of some and I know we’ll continue to experience more. Life has not been dull being married at all. I really love it.  On my wedding day I thought I completely loved Matt. I had no clue how much that love could grow for someone I thought I already loved 100%. Somehow I love him more now than I did then. It just keeps growing and growing. It's kind of incredible that that can happen.

We are a team. I love my teammate. He’s pretty fabulous. I’m very blessed to enjoy marriage as I do. I hope I can enjoy the life we lead and not take for granted the truly biggest blessing of my life. I love you Matt! :)